nillanat asked:
I got really depressed because my boyfriend who I adored broke up with me for someone else, and my ex and I became really close friends, then I felt like I wanted him…And it hurt me to know I couldn’t lean over and hug him if I wanted to because he loved someone else, he cared for another girl instead of me. I used to cut a lot last year, but I quit and told myself that I wasn’t gonna do it – Well, I did it. I’ve been doing it all this week and I’ve decided that I really need to stop. After the breakup – Before i knew he got a new girlfriend, I was getting help dealing with it from a friend. A much older, and wiser friend. She helped me by telling me to start loving myself before I love another. She gave me homework to say “I like me” and look into the mirror while doing it, 10 times in a row, 3 times a day. She also told me to say “I am a fun, beautfil, confident girl making healthy relationships now!” as another homework assignment to say to myself (in the mirror) 1 time per day. I was doing great until I got so close to my ex…Now is my best guy-friend. We got to know eachother A LOT after he broke up with me. I just stopped caring I guess, and I just said anything I felt. I guess he began to trust me and told me very personal things about himself – I did the same. This made me feel worse knowing I wasn’t with him but I loved him so much. Which is why I cut again. I am trying to get back ontrack with loving myself, but if I continue to hate myself and therefore cut, I will get absolutely NO WHERE. And I know that.
What do you suggest I do.
And I can’t cut off all relations from him, because we go to school together and our seats are permanantly next to eachother, so there will be communication to him no matter what. And, I adore him deeply…So I don’t think it’s possible at all.
Thank you so much for whatever you can help with.
get your ex back
I got really depressed because my boyfriend who I adored broke up with me for someone else, and my ex and I became really close friends, then I felt like I wanted him…And it hurt me to know I couldn’t lean over and hug him if I wanted to because he loved someone else, he cared for another girl instead of me. I used to cut a lot last year, but I quit and told myself that I wasn’t gonna do it – Well, I did it. I’ve been doing it all this week and I’ve decided that I really need to stop. After the breakup – Before i knew he got a new girlfriend, I was getting help dealing with it from a friend. A much older, and wiser friend. She helped me by telling me to start loving myself before I love another. She gave me homework to say “I like me” and look into the mirror while doing it, 10 times in a row, 3 times a day. She also told me to say “I am a fun, beautfil, confident girl making healthy relationships now!” as another homework assignment to say to myself (in the mirror) 1 time per day. I was doing great until I got so close to my ex…Now is my best guy-friend. We got to know eachother A LOT after he broke up with me. I just stopped caring I guess, and I just said anything I felt. I guess he began to trust me and told me very personal things about himself – I did the same. This made me feel worse knowing I wasn’t with him but I loved him so much. Which is why I cut again. I am trying to get back ontrack with loving myself, but if I continue to hate myself and therefore cut, I will get absolutely NO WHERE. And I know that.
What do you suggest I do.
And I can’t cut off all relations from him, because we go to school together and our seats are permanantly next to eachother, so there will be communication to him no matter what. And, I adore him deeply…So I don’t think it’s possible at all.
Thank you so much for whatever you can help with.
get your ex back
